Dear unknown friend,
When you spend some time outside in the cold without gloves, after a while your hands get used to the temperature. It may not be pleasant, but you can get on with it. The really painful moments happen when you come back inside and warm up your hands...
Before anything else, I would like to tell you, dear unknown friend, that anything that happens in the physical world is a metaphor for something that happens in the psychic world. An ancient principle of hermetic philosophy, the first or second verse of the Emerald Tablet, goes like this:
"That which is below is like that which is above & that which is above is like that which is below to do the miracles of one only thing"
So when I say that anything we experience in the material world is a metaphor for something that exists in the psychic or spiritual world, I say nothing new.
I once reassured a friend who found it hard to accept - without judging herself - her great difficulty in being surrounded by people. I had the same problem: on one hand, suffering from solitude and craving for human proximity, and on the other hand, finding this very human proximity very difficult to bear once we had it...
When we catch ourselves not wanting what we believed we wanted, whilst still wanting it when it's absent, we, human beings, have a tendency to judge ourselves. All we understand is that there is something wrong with us.
I remembered how painful it was coming back inside the house after spending time outside in the cold without gloves. I remembered that the big mistake that you only make once in that situation is to in put your hands in hot water. It burns! When our hands are cold, cold water feels warm.
We must spend some time in pain before our hands become used to the warmth again, and able to enjoy it.
That which is above is like that which is below. Sometimes life is lonely, and our hearts have to become used to the cold. When we find the way back to human warmth, much to our surprise, we can't stand it.
It's normal. There is nothing wrong with us. There is nothing wrong with our hands or with the warm water that feels like burning.
If we were suddenly allowed into paradise, it would be a terrible trauma.
Let's learn how to be happy together.... slowly.